About This Memory Space
This page was created for Donald P. Hay, M.D.'s family and friends as a place to remember them, to share stories, and to keep their memory close in everyday life.
It is cared for and added to over time by the people who knew them, and everyone is invited to contribute, whether that is a story, a photo, a few words, or a simple note.
Many families visit places like this not just once, but again and again, especially on quiet days or meaningful anniversaries. This page is here for those moments, wherever you are.
A place to return to when you want to feel close again, to remember a moment, or to leave a few words for others to read. Over time, it grows through the voices of everyone who knew and loved them.
Light a Candle Growing
Light a candle to honor Donald P. Hay, M.D.'s memory. Each lighting keeps their memory burning bright for 23 hours.
Candle lit burns 23 hours. Come back and light it again after 23 hours to keep the memory burning.
Limited to 5 lightings per hour to prevent abuse.
Memory Wall Growing
Stories, photos, and memories shared by people who knew Donald P. Hay, M.D.. This is the heart of this space—a collection that grows as more people contribute.
No memories posted yet. Be the first to share a story or memory.
Life & Legacy
Born in Eastchester, New York, Don Hay grew into a man of profound character, blending intellectual rigor with a playful spirit. His life's journey was marked by a deep commitment to healing others, joyful pursuits like jazz music and ballroom dancing, and an unreserved generosity of heart that made him a cherished presence in every circle he entered.
Family & Loved Ones
Donald P. Hay, M.D.'s legacy lives on through their family and loved ones:
- Don shared 22 fulfilling years with his beloved wife, Sandra Tunis, finding delight in ballroom dancing lessons together. He was a pillar for his children, Joseph Hay and Sarah Gurstelle, and stepchildren Jacob Holub, Shoshanah Bruesewitz, and John A. McArdle, while doting on his six grandchildren. Preceded in death by his parents Sidney and Diana Hay, sister Cynthia Seegull, and former wife Linda Hay, Don poured love, support, and fun into his family bonds. His passions included playing the trumpet, savoring jazz, reminiscing about his five years in Montana with the Public Health Service, and his unforgettable experience at the 1969 Woodstock Music Festival.
Remembered by Friends & Family
In the days and weeks after their passing, messages of love, support, and remembrance flowed in from friends, family, and colleagues. The themes that emerged were clear and consistent.
Community members shared heartfelt reflections on Don's infectious laughter, compassionate nature, and the profound impact he had as a healer and friend, with many recalling his musical talents and joyful spirit that brightened gatherings.
Memorial Gathering: To be announced
Memorial Service: Celebration of Life
Location: Flanner Buchanan Funeral Centers
325 East Carmel Drive, Carmel, IN, 46032
Additional Information: Please contact the funeral home for additional information.
For more details, visit the original obituary